Don’t ask us if we are over it yet We’ll never be over it
A part of us died with our child
Don ‘I tell us they are in a better place.
They are not here with us where they belong.
Don’t say at least they are not suffering.
We haven’t come to terms with why they sufffered atalL
Don’t tell us at least we have other children
Which of your children would you have sacrificed?
Don’t ask us if we are better.
Bereavement isn’t a condition that clears up.
Don ‘t force your beliefs on us
Not all of us have the same faith.
Don’t tell us God never gives us more than we can bear.
Right now we don’t think we can handle anything else
Don’t avoid us. We don’t have a contagious disease
Just unbearable pain.
Don’t tell us you know how we feel Unless you have lost a child.
No other loss can compare to losing a child
Don ‘t take our anger personally.
We don’t know who we are angry at or why.
We lash out at those closest to us.
Don’t whisper behind us when we enter a room
We are in pain not deaf
Don’t stop calling us after the initial loss.
Our grief does not stop there, and we need to know that others are thinking of us.
Don’t be offended when we don’t return calls right away.
We take each moment as it comes.
Some are worse than others.
Don’t tell us to get on with our lives
We each grieve differently in our own time frame
Grief cannot be governed by any clock or calendar.
Do say you are sorry. But we’d rather hear nothing if they are cliches you don’t mean.
Do put your arms around us and hold us
We need your strength to get through each day.
Do say you remember our child if you do.
Memories are all we have left and we cherish them
Do let us talk about our child
Our child lives in our hearts forever.
Do mention our Child’s name.
It will not make us sad or hurt our feelings
Do let us cry. Cry with us i/ you want to.
Do remember us on special dates
They are a lonely and difficult time without our child
Do show our family that you do care
Sometimes we forget to do that in our own pain
Do be thankful for your children
Nothing hurts us more than seeing other people in pain
For we know that pain, as we have lost a child
Author Unknown
